The Perfectionist Trap - Part 4

We've talked about perfectionism, what it is, and how it traps us. If you missed it, read Part 1 and Part 2 and Part 3. 

But what do we do once we recognize that we are responding to life from the trap of perfectionism? How do we learn to create more realistic goals?

Sometimes I have actually written down everything I wishI could accomplish. Then with bold strokes I mark out all but two or three tasks, giving myself permission to put off some jobs until another day. Somehow the process of writing out the jobs helps my whirling mind know that I haven't forgotten those tasks; I have just chosen to do the job another day. Will my children mind if I put off dusting for a day, or if the cookie jar is empty, if I stop to snuggle on the couch and read them a story?

My husband helps me tremendously in setting proper priorities. I'm learning to say “Sure!” when he asks if we can invite someone over instead of saying “But the house isn't clean, I haven't dusted in weeks, and I don't have any food!” Much to my surprise, I have found that we can eat popcorn in a dusty house and still enjoy good fellowship.

I'll probably always enjoy setting a table with freshly starched napkins and pretty china. It is a pleasure to prepare a meal with special niceties to show a friend how much she means to me. But when the choice comes between the bondage of my perfectionism and joy of serving others, I hope I never hesitate in my decision.

Now I want to hear from you! How have you combated perfectionism?